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Memorials: Palo Alto Friends Meeting

Katherine Kallander

Date of birth

March 9, 1935

Date of death

July 30, 2020


Palo Alto Friends Meeting

Memorial minute

Katharine Kallander was born on March 9, 1935, the beloved daughter of Arthur Bryan Clark, Jr. and Mary Ferguson. She was affectionately known as "Kiki" to friends and family. Although born in Connecticut, she spent most of her adult life in California. 

She died peacefully at her home surrounded by love from her family on July 31, 2020. She was the loving mother of Dominique Quincy, Knute Kallander, and Lara Kallander, who survived her. She was also the adoring grandmother of Ryan, Brianna, Rebecca, Abigail, Finn, and Lilah. She was the former spouse of Francois Chavatte and the late Charles Kallander. 

Katharine's professional life was as a therapist, and she was passionate about health and the well-being of others. She spoke French fluently, loved playing the piano and reading. In addition, she enjoyed lively intellectual discussions. 

Katharine joined the Palo Alto Meeting in July 2005, transferring her membership from the Redwood Forest Meeting, which she had joined in 1973. At that time, the Redwood Forest Meeting was so small that each member took turns for a period of three months, holding the office of Clerk. 

As a child, Katharine's religious background was in the Congregational Church. In her meeting with the Visiting Committee for Membership Transfer, she spoke lovingly of her father's choice of conscientious objection during World War II, and of her mother's teaching to "look for that of God in every man.” She said her search for a place to worship moved with her as she and her family moved. She eventually came to discover silent Quaker worship, which she described as "coming home." A member of her Visiting Committee said Katharine told her she had been deeply moved reading the work of Howard Thurman. 

At Palo Alto Meeting, she was a faithful attender and brought her love of music with her, participating regularly in hymn singing prior to Meeting for Worship. As part of her service to the Meeting during the first decade of the century, Katharine served on the committee responsible for visiting hospitalized or home-bound Friends. Her presence and her beautiful smile will be missed.